— Albert Einstein
— John Ciardi
— From Invest Like a Guru – How to Generate Higher Returns at Reduced Risk with Value Investing P. 39
… he projected his first slide, the key to a successful marriage, which showed just one phrase:
‘Love each other, forever.’
Participants started to shake their heads and said the sentiment was hard to put in practice. Then the marriage counselor put up his second slide, which said:
‘If you cannot do that, now you need to follow these four rules: (1) Compromise, tolerate, and forgive. (2) Make it a habit to compromise, tolerate, and forgive. (3) Pretend to be a fool. (4) Make that a habit, too.’
The participants grew more vocal, saying the four rules are impossible to follow. Waiting until they quieted down, the counselor put up his third slide, which said:
‘If you cannot follow these four rules, now you need to do these 16 things right: (1) Don’t lose your tempers at the same time. (2) Don’t yell unless it is an emergency. (3) When getting into an argument, let your spouse win. (4) Don’t let an argument last overnight. (5) Always be ready to apologize …’
After reading these, some laughed and some sighed. The counselor then showed his fourth slide, which said:
‘If you still cannot follow 16 rules, now you need to do these 256 things right…’
— David Roberts of Puyallup Washington from Guideposts
— Kahlil Gibran From ‘The Prophet’ p. 8
And the priests and the priestesses said unto him:
Let not the waves of the sea seperate us now, and the years you have spent in our midst become memory.
You have walked among us a spirit, and your shadow has been a light about our faces.
Much have we loved you. But speechless was our love, and with veils has it been veiled.
Yet now it cries aloud onto you, and would stand revealed before you.
And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
— Henry Miller
Next to love, friendship, in my opinion, is the most valuable thing life has to offer.”
— Why we Love P. 3
… in a survey of 166 varied cultures, anthropologists found evidence of romantic love in 147, almost 90 percent of them. In the remaining 19 societies, scientists had simply failed to examine this aspect of people’s lives. But from Siberia to the Australian Outback to the Amazon, people sing love songs, compose love poems, and recount myths and legends of romantic love. Many perform love magic — carrying amulets and charms or serving condiments or concoctions to stimulate romantic ardor. Many elope. And many suffer deeply from unrequited love. Some kill their lovers, Some kill themselves. Many sink into a sorrow so profound that they can hardly eat or sleep.
From reading the poems, songs, and stories of people around the world, I came to believe that the capacity for romantic love is woven firmly into the fabric of the human brain. Romantic love is a universal human experience.
What is this volatile, often uncontrollable feeling that hijacks the mind, bringing bliss one moment, despair the next?”
The More You Give Love Away, the More You Get”
I’d like to end with my absolute favorite Buffett quote. His late wife, Susan, was a famously kind and loving person, and he has often said that marrying her was the most important decision he ever made. When Susan had cancer, he visited her in a hospital in San Francisco, then flew to Georgia to speak with a class of college students. According to Alice Schroeder’s book, The Snowball, the students asked him about his greatest success and his greatest failure.
Mr. Buffett replied: “When you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age in life and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is, your life is a disaster.
“That’s the ultimate test of how you have lived your life. The trouble with love is that you can’t buy it. You can buy sex. You can buy testimonial dinners. You can buy pamphlets that say how wonderful you are. But the only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”
Chasing Daylight – how my forthcoming death transformed my life P. 46
A week before, I was living my life. Now I was contemplating my death.
Together, over the years, we had chased the daylight. And now, as a team, we were going to chase it one last time, only when the daylight faded this time, it would fade not just on one beautiful day among many, but on our beautiful life together. Shadows would lengthen for the last time. At some point, she would have to finish her round without me.”
Viktor E. Frankl in Man’s Search for Meaning p. 50
My mind still clung to the image of my wife. A thought crossed my mind: I didn’t even know if she were still alive. I knew only one thing — which I have learned well by now: Love goes very far beyond the physical presence of the beloved. It finds its deepest meaning in his spiritual being, his inner self. Whether or not he is actually present, whether or not he is still alive at all, ceases somehow to be of importance.
I did not know whether my wife was alive, and I had no means of finding out …; but at the moment it ceased to matter. There was no need for me to know; nothing could touch the strength of my love, my thoughts, and the image of my beloved. Had I known then that my wife was dead, I think I would still have given myself, undisturbed by that knowledge, to the contemplation of her image, and that my mental conversation with her would have been just as vivid and just as satisfying. ‘Set me like a seal upon thy heart, love is as strong as death.’”